What to Expect at Your First Court Appearance

What to Wear, When to Arrive, & How to Manage Nerves: Real Talk About Your First Court Appearance

Let’s be real — going to court for the first time can feel terrifying. Whether you're going as a witness, a party in the case, or even just to support someone, it’s totally normal to feel anxious or unsure. I remember the first time I walked into a courtroom, I was so nervous I forgot where I parked… and I was 25 minutes early.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, you’re not alone. This guide will help walk you through the basics — what to wear, when to arrive, what to bring, and how to keep your nerves in check — so you feel as calm and prepared as possible.

What to Wear (Because, Yes, It Matters)

You don’t need to go out and buy a whole new wardrobe, but what you wear can absolutely impact how you're perceived.

Think simple and respectful. A good rule of thumb? Business casual or better. If you’d wear it to church or a job interview, it’s probably safe. Men can stick with slacks and a button-up (a blazer is a bonus). Women might go with a simple dress, blouse with slacks, or a modest skirt. Nothing flashy, and definitely no ripped jeans or graphic tees.

Stick to neutral colors. Blacks, grays, navy — these give off a serious, respectful vibe. Bright colors or loud patterns can be distracting. You want the focus to be on your words, not your wardrobe.

Grooming counts too. Messy hair, chipped nails, or too much cologne/perfume? Not the vibe. You don’t need to look like a model, but polished is key.

When to Arrive (Spoiler: Early Is Better)

Being late to court? Big no-no. It’s stressful, and it doesn’t look good.

Plan to arrive at least 30 minutes early. Even if your hearing is at 9:00 AM, give yourself plenty of wiggle room. Parking can be tricky, lines at security can be long, and honestly, just having a moment to breathe before going in is worth it.

If you can, do a trial run. Seriously, if it’s local, consider driving by the courthouse a day or two before to get the lay of the land. Know where to park, where the entrance is, and how long it might take to get there.

Security checks are no joke. Leave the pocketknife at home (yes, I’ve seen it happen). Be ready to go through a metal detector — similar to the airport, minus the pat-downs.

What to Bring (Trust Me, You’ll Want These)

Your paperwork - Bring all the documents related to your case — court notices, subpoenas, anything your attorney gave you. And make a few extra copies just in case someone asks for one.

A notepad and pen - You may hear dates or instructions you’ll need to remember. Don’t rely on your memory — nerves can wipe your brain clean in seconds.

Something small for comfort - A small stone, a scripture card, a photo of your kid — whatever helps you feel grounded. Just make sure it’s discreet and not distracting.

How to Act in Court (This Part Really Matters)

Stay calm — even if things get tense. Court can stir up big emotions. But keeping your cool, even when others don’t, will work in your favor. Judges notice that stuff.

Always address the judge as "Your Honor." Even if you don’t feel like being respectful to everyone else in the room, show respect to the court. It goes a long way.

Listen more than you talk. Unless you're testifying or being asked a direct question, it’s best to observe and take notes. Your attorney (if you have one) should do most of the talking.

Managing Nerves (Because Anxiety Is Real)

Try breathing exercises. Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4, exhale for 4. Do this a few times while you’re waiting to be called. It really does help.

Visualize the day ahead. Picture yourself walking into court, speaking calmly, and handling the situation like a boss. Visualization isn't just for athletes — it helps in high-stress situations too.

Bring a support person. If the court allows it and you have someone you trust, bring them. Having a familiar face nearby can lower your anxiety big time.

Final Thoughts

Your first court appearance might feel like the scariest day of your life — but it won’t be. You will get through it. Showing up prepared, dressed appropriately, and emotionally steady is already a huge win.

Remember, courts see people every day. You’re not expected to be perfect — just respectful, calm, and prepared. And if you mess up a little? That’s okay too. Everyone has a first time.

Preparation is power. Walk in with confidence — you're more capable than you realize